The Romantic Dinner

What is the perfect romantic dinner?  There are certain elements I’m sure everyone agrees on: candlelight, wine, chocolate… and of course, hot, smoldering looks throughout the meal. But when you invite a man over for dinner – the one that is leading to THE moment, how do you prepare? What do you cook?

The first part of the evening you should concentrate on is, well, you. You want to be relaxed and inviting. Take a hot bubble bath with some sensuous essential oils before you begin preparing dinner.  When you dress, choose the clothes that make you feel comfortable and sexy. Dressing for him is fine, but remember, this is your night too, and it will unfold much better if you are feeling confident and natural.


Set the mood. Soft lighting, some sensual background music, perhaps a vanilla potpourri. Remember, all the senses can be titillated, and the more the brain’s pleasure center is stimulated, the better the sex is going to be.

What should you serve for dinner? I posted an article about aphrodisiac foods the other day. Whatever you do, stay in your culinary comfort zone. Don’t try a new and complicated recipe if you don’t know your way around the kitchen too well, or if you are not sure how something will turn out. You want good food, and you don’t want stress worrying about it.

Prepare lighter foods – fish or a tasty filet with rice or steamed vegetables is much better than a heavy meat and potatoes dinner. You don’t want him thinking about a nap instead of you after dinner! Keep the number of courses at or below 4 – appetizer, soup/salad, entrée, and dessert. Serve food with red wine.


Keep in mind, food can be part of foreplay. Feed him bites of food from your fingers. If he reciprocates, take the food from his fingers into your mouth while staring into his eyes. Grab his wrist with both your hands and suck his fingers to get every bit of flavor from them. If you can work whipped cream into your chocolate dessert, be sure to do it. Then get creative.

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Aphrodisiac Food

Some foods are considered aphrodisiacs. There is, apparently, science to back this up.  A variety of foods, due to the vitamins and minerals they contain, actually stimulate the pleasure center of the brain.  Some foods are considered aphrodisiacs because of a suggestive appearance. Some foods have libido enhancing aromas. Others may spark neurotransmitters that imitate the the feelings of sexual arousal or love.

Oysters, probably the most oft cited aphrodisiac food, contain high levels of zinc, a nutrient essential to the production of testosterone (key to libido stimulation for both men and women).  The sweet. salty flavor of oysters is also reminiscent of a powerful female pheromone.

Avocados contain high levels of vitamin E, sometimes referred to as the sex vitamin. Avocados also contain a lot of potassium, which enhances libido.

Pomegranates are full of antioxidants and vitamin C, both key nutrients in a healthy sex drive.

The scent of red wine  resembles a mans pheromones. Red wine also contains antioxidants which help blood flow. Blood flow is important to sex, as everyone knows.

Everything about chocolate is sexy! Not only does dark chocolate smell and taste sensuous, eating it causes dopamine levels to spike.  Dopamine  is released in the brain when we fall in love. Dark chocolate also releases tryptophan  a chemical associated with arousal.

Watermelon (this one surprised me, too!), is full of lycopene, which relaxes blood vessels and improves circulation. Studies suggest that watermelon may actually have a viagra-like effect!

These are just a few foods considered to be aphrodisiacs. There are many others, including bananas, red chili peppers, figs,  asparagus, and strawberries.

Can a Lost Moment Be Recaptured?

It happens, usually when you are not expecting it. You see him across the room. Your eyes meet… and lock. There is something about him. He’s not like all the other guys at the bar / party / concert.  Never breaking eye contact, he saunters over to you.

Whatever he says to you in his deep, sexy voice is the perfect thing.  You respond, he smiles. Something inside of you feels suddenly soft and light. A quick once over confirms that all of him is delectable.

He moves closer. You can feel the heat from his body. The conversation begins. He’s smart and funny. He is attentive to your words and body language. The casual flirtation turns into an opportunity.  It’s only a matter of time before he leans down to kiss you. And you want him to. You’re anticipating it with every meaningful look.

Then… he makes an awkward comment, or misunderstands something you say, or  his eyes linger a bit too long on the woman that walks by and smiles at him.  The image of you bringing him coffee in your bed in the morning is shattered. It had been so perfect! Now suddenly, it isn’t.

You turn away from him for the first time since your eyes met.

“What, baby?” he asks you. It’s the same sexy voice, the same hot body, the same smoldering gaze. But he knows something has changed. He drifts away.

You see him as you’re getting ready to leave. Again, your eyes meet. You feel a smile tugging at the corners of your mouth as he flashes you a sweet, sexy grin. You reconsider.

Then, with an imperceptible shake of your head, you shrug your coat on and go home. Alone. shot

Happy New Year to All!

Clean slate, fresh start, turn the page, it’s a new chapter!

Every year, on January 1, we have an opportunity to close the door on the past, and face a new year with confidence and optimism. 2015 has been an awesome year for me. Lifelong goals realized, not the least of which is finishing and publishing a book!

My heart is filled with love, my thoughts are filled with possibilities, and my mind is full of new ideas.

Welcome 2016! I am looking forward…


To all my readers:

May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind always be at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face,
and rains fall soft upon your fields.

Happy New Year!